Sometimes I struggle with giving the people I love space to grow and change. I fear that I will no longer be able to connect with someone I care about or that they may lose interest in me. So and I have a tendency to distance myself from people in an effort to protect myself from loss.
Recently I’ve felt this happening with one of my best friends. We’re at pretty different points in our lives and don’t have many overlapping interests, so it makes sense that we haven’t been as close. I know friendships fluctuate though, and there may absolutely be a point when she once again feels like the Christina to my Meredith (we’re both obsessed with Grey’s Anatomy).
But I spent the afternoon with this friend and I realized how much I’d missed her and her family. As a strong introvert, it’s rare for me to find people that allow me to completely relax, and she is definitely one of those people. I think it’s the unconditional love I feel from her that allows me to be completely free from self consciousness.
If there’s someone in your life who makes you feel like this, or who you wish you were closer with, take a moment to call/text/write them a letter, then come back and make them some applesauce. Because obviously applesauce is the most authentic and complete expression of love.
But truly, this is such a great gift to others, yourself, and your entire household (it will make your kitchen smell AMAZING as it cooks). Sharing warm bowls of applesauce with my family gave me all the cozy warm feelings (both in my stomach and my heart).
I’m so interested in what you have to say, so let me know your thoughts about friendships, Grey’s Anatomy, and/or applesauce here or on Instagram.
- ½ tbsp coconut oil
- 3 cups chopped apples, such as fuji, gala, or honeycrisp (about 2 large apples)
- ½ tbsp grated fresh ginger
- 1 cup water
- Melt coconut oil in large, heavy bottomed pot.
- Add chopped apple, cover, and cook on medium low for 30 minutes.
- Add ginger and water to pot, bring to boil, then cover and simmer.
- Continue to simmer for an hour, periodically mashing apples with a large fork or potato masher. (Alternatively, blend in food processor once cooking is done. I haven't tried this, but I imagine it would create a smoother sauce.)